Friday, August 26, 2011

A Carrot, an Egg, and a Cup of Coffee

 from  Welteberhan


 A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up; she was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, ‘Tell me what you see.’

‘Carrots, eggs, and coffee,’ she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, ‘What does it mean, mother?’

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

‘Which are you?’ she asked her daughter… ‘When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship, or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.

Live your life so at the end, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

May we all be COFFEE!!!!!!!

From my readings:-

26 comments:

  1. I thank you Daniel and the one who send you to share ---

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  2. it is good starting to share different opinion in different language for us.how ever,as i see it the message is very dangerous specially for christian.in my opinion,it is not spiritual message.by the way dani did u see that the conclusion what try to tell us or u just post it what some body sent to u.if you just post it please verify it for next time but if think are in the same,you should make a U turn.it wont take you far.please dani read it again and again and then u will get the point what i want to say.
    "The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

    When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.

    Live your life so at the end, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying."

    by the way dani,you are a wonderful person for our country.may God help you to be as you supported be for ever. amen

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  3. Amen! Endet Tibebegna Enat Nachewu? khy!

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  4. Dear Woletebrehan,

    It was a nice article but don't mind me to jot down few comments after all this box is what it's for.

    Let me talk about the carrot and the egg. Apparently, they've never been in contact with fire before thus their first reaction is shock. Look here the coffee bean on the other hand been through roasting which changed its face from green to brown, and grounding which prepares it to change the water (world). Likewise, if you blend the carrot,having been in the boiling process, it would make a nice smoothy. I don't know how you may rectifiy your article but I would say
    they are all the same to me...the more your in trouble the better you get or break.
    I would say one need "Courage my freinds" to change the world.

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  5. Engelsh quankua alchelem ebakhen wede Amharic keyerlegn?

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  6. God help you to be as you supported be for ever .Amen.
    Dani besew kemeweded belay tlq negere mn al? Egzabhiren amesgnewe.

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  7. "Live your life so at the end, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying." not a good ending....why would I prefer every one to cry while am smiling...

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  8. you are wonderful daniel! l want you to pray harder and harder and harder !!! I don't wanna miss you. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!!

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  9. Thank you D/n Dani
    I like the article. But I did not understand the comments from some readers.
    I understood that to get what we want, we have to face different challenges. The way we handle the situation determines the result/effects of the challenges.
    For example currently our churches are facing different challenges from inside and outside. We can save our churches from these challenges by making ourselves strong and tasteful like the coffee. when the coffee gets bowled, it is more tasty. Likely to save the church and our country as a whole we have to act and react patiently (in a smart way)and at the end of the day we will be happy and our challengers will get disappointed. In other words our beloved religion will be the winner.
    This is the way I understand the article.

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  10. very interesting!! but I don't understand why everyone around us would cry while we are smiling??? lezih ke genfo eske nefero lehonew hiwotachen demo beziriyachen yalut hulu menew hule endesaku bekeru!! wey baysekum lemen yalekesu betekaraniw besakachen kemenaselekesachew menalebet besakachen endet mesak endemichal benasetemerachew???
    Thanks for sharing brother Dani!!
    Egziabher yesetelegn and endesak yazelekelegn.

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  11. For those commenting on the conclusion.
    I think Dani's conclusion is '' may we all be coffee ''. What you comment is on the writers conclusion, if you are saying 'dani should not that conclusion' personally I disagree. But I agree on your point that the writers conclusion seems to magnify the proverb than the hall issue that he writes.

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  12. For those commenting on the conclusion.
    I think Dani's conclusion is '' may we all be coffee ''. What you comment is on the writers conclusion, if you are saying 'Dani should not write that conclusion' personally I disagree. But I agree on your point that the writer's conclusion seems to magnify the proverb than the hall issue that he writes.

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  13. thanks dani.
    but i'm not coffee.for the future...

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  14. thanks Dr.
    after reading it search my self.

    I'm alex 1

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  15. thanks dany i am not sure who am i?but am not coffe

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  16. Interesting article. However, it would be better if it were translated to Amharic. Because there are many people visiting this website who cannot understand English well.

    AA from Addis Ababa

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  17. thank you dani it is nice you make us to ask ourselves who amI?

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  18. My Life: Part-1

    Why I appreciate Mr Daniel is mainly, not because he is always right in details of his issues he raises. Why I appreciate him most is that the very issues he selects and raises are very substantial and invites and tempts every body to say something based on different perspectives. And that is what makes him some how unique. And what we have to expect from him is not to always become perfect right in all what he says. But rather we better focus on the opportunity he creates by selecting very pressing and substantial subjects or issues that are very inviting to a variety of bloggers to comment and expand our views and perspectives from different directions. That is the way I see it. And if we see it this way also then I think we all become free and honest to express our feelings and thoughts frankly without pretence and worry. In this article he is somehow raising about “life” which is such a very very very argumentative and broad spectrum subject that there are around 6 billion peoples in the world and hence possibly 6 billions things can be said about it. And every body has his own way of experience in life and hence his own way of interpretation about it. In this article the discussion is between two women (A mother and a daughter).Well the way female sexuality experiences and views life in general, can be some how different from that of male sexuality. And hence a mother chooses such scenario to explain life for her daughter. May be if a father was to explain it, may be he would have used a different approach. I mean life it self can be some how different even based on sexuality and that is why God created female and male sexuality to make certain sort of balance in life and nature.
    But to come to the point we human beings react and interpret differently to different life events.
    Because we have different life experiences starting from the very inception of our humanity in the womb of our mother. However, the experience we possibly face is human experience, not an alien one, and hence we have a lot of things in common to share. I mean as a human being we commonly share bad or good emotional feelings and also have basic emotional needs and basic material needs as we live in our life time. And hence we commonly feel happiness, sadness, anger, fear, loneliness, respect, etc.
    What we usually and mainly differ is the way we interpret and react to a certain life event or incident in our day to day experiences. I mean different things can make as feel angry or happy or sad or etc.
    For example a certain event that can makes Daniel happy can make me angry or sad or fearful and vice versa. Also we commonly and universally share same responses to same live events. For example when our close family member or relatives dies we all almost really feel sad and sorry about it.
    However, the most important thing is that we have to be aware of self and other’s people’s emotions and emotional needs and hence recognize and respect them as they are. Denying or thwarting our emotions and emotional needs is such a very grave mistake and hence can lead us to misunderstanding and conflict with us and with others as well. And from this perspective when we struggle and thrive in the challenges of our life experience and also talk about success or failure, it is very important that we recognize and give due respect for our emotions and emotional needs. Because success and failure, like life, are also not absolutely agreeable common things that have absolute references and measure and are personal things that can be individually different and argumentative.
    continues to My Life:part-2

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  19. My Life:Part-2

    Dani you know sometimes I do not want to thrive that much as such to change things that I can not change and hence I want to see my self from a witness perspective and wait what will unravel eventually inside of me and outside of me. I mean if I have to fail I accept failure and If I have to succeed I also accept that same way interpreting both failure and success in my own terms.
    Therefore the greatest endless task and home work for we human beings is to question and explore the very meaning and purpose of our very humanity which is secrecy for most of us. Life is a process and hence not a destinations that we achieve it as a final end. And that is why the great king Solomon (Who is deemed to have almost every thing) once said while he was in a very desperate condition that “ሁሉ ከንቱ የከንቱ ከንቱ ነፋስን እንደመከተል ነው፡፡”
    And also the article reminds me of what I heard from some one regarding what the great Shakespeare once said about life. “Life is what you make it.” These above two quotes are things that makes some how good sense for me personally about life that are placed at two polarized ends. However, how about, if “life is what life itself makes it” for us to accept it as it is? The problem is that like I never saw or met face to face and never knew in full our God and hence same way I do not either experience or know life in whole also. And hence the two (Life and God) are mysteries for me that I never need and never dare to unravel what really is. Oh Dani the subject you raise is such a very mind boggling and I better stop and leave this blog.
    By the way is this experiment done before or after such today’s very expensive times(አስከፊ የኑሮ ውድነት) where 1 Kilo of coffee is more than 100 Birr and an egg close to 2 birr and a carrot …. also expensive? I mean take care of the items you choose so that it will be easy. Well you choose some how relatively affordable ones some how.Oh sorry another thing I am a male sexuality and man and hence can you please next time bring another example that is like between a son and a father so that I can say something on the examples confidently? Or may be between God and some poor guy like me who thrives on this……………………..thing we call “LIFE” that makes me ……………..




    With regards and respect

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  20. thanks D/n dani the story helps me to search where i belong, but still i couldn't find it. But i will one day.............

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  21. thanks dany it brings me a true joy that i haven't had before....

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  22. When things be come diffecult doesn't mean you shouldn"t try it, It mean's you should try harder!!

    thankyou Welteberhan and Daniel

    DANY FROM MARRYLAND

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  23. @my life
    Thanks for your interesting view on life. Why don't you write tour piece

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  24. A very nice and educational story, Thanks Daniel!!! God bless u!!!

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  25. better to be written in our language.

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  26. Thx Dani,it is interesting article.
    Jesuschris when he was onland to teach a pepoles those have different prespectives he need different examples related to their life.
    Every time ur articles are convincing everybody, b/c u are depending on the above guide line to select an article.
    H/Eyesus from SWITZERLAND

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